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Do we really like being Happy?

luvhari — Sat, 17 Apr 2010 20:41:32 +0000

Many people forget the things that matter in life and constantly wonder why they feel like shit most of the time. Although most people say they want to be happy, almost none of them can tell you how specifically they will know when they are happy.
It looks like our brain is not tuned into feel happy. Don’t believe me?

Ok answer this question
Where in you body do you feel the most pleasure right now?

Found an answer yet?

If you are like most people you say there wondering where you feel the most pleasure in your body.
Now try answering another question

Where in your body do you feel the most pain right now?

At one workshop I had a near 100% response to this question. Almost everyone could point out at least one place where they felt some kind of pain.

What does this exercise prove?

We are more tuned into detect pain than pleasure. Any wonder why we always seem to end up in bad spots, less than desirable situations.
The things we like don’t seem to want to come to us. That is because although consciously we say we like pleasure, unconsciously we are comfortable with pain.
Until you realize this fact and consciously start to identify the pleasure spots in your body and in your life, you will stay wound in the same rat race.

So everytime you make a decision ask your self are making it because every one else is making or, because you believe you will get closer to being happier this way?

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Negotiate with Ease

luvhari — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 12:02:45 +0000

Many people think negotiations are the ones that happen only in plus office behind closed doors and between expensive suits. No true. We negotiate all the time even without realizing that we do. Every time you are bargaining for a better price or deal or an offer you are actually negotiating.

It is probably one of the very essential skills necessary for success in what ever we are doing. Here is a short video that gives us five simple steps in getting the best out of negotiation. Bob Parsons, the founder of GoDaddy is one of the biggest success stories in the world of internet and now you can benefit from his wisdom.

As always, share your thoughts please. Click on the play button and enjoy

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How to solve Self Esteem issues

luvhari — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 17:27:00 +0000

Too many people back out from effective communication due to self esteem issues. Back in India we have an excellent car called Maruti Esteem and every time I see that car, I check to see how I feel about my Cruiser bike and guess what? I feel great. Self Esteem simply put, is a direct result of how you see yourself in the mirror. Do you see yourself smiling or frowning? And it usually has very little to do with the actual mirror or your actual reflection in the mirror.

It is a hypothetical mirror which most of the times exaggerates small issues and give reasons for real worries and have a serious impact on your reality.

Wow that was a loaded statement but true never the less.

So you can ignore it today but it ain’t going anywhere. It is one of those things that persist when you resist and usually tend to magnify when ignored. My suggestion is to get your act together and face that mirror and gently, but firmly change the way things look to the way you want it to be. That’s the beauty of a hypothetical mirror; you can change the scene without the justification

Now that you know how to solve the problem let me help you with some specifics. There are three things you need to do to take control of your self esteem.
1. Check out this article on Building your Self Esteem.
2. Get hold of this book on improving your self esteem.
3. Read the book and take action. Even one small exercise done on a daily basis will boost your self esteem.

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