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Full hypnosis download Kids happy bedtime – in production
Sleep and the preparation for it – the ‘settling down’ period – is important for everyone, but especially children. Children particularly need quality sleep as they develop. But sometimes bedtime can become fraught with anxieties, from not wanting to be alone at night to just feeling over tired and fraught. TV, computer games or just worries in general all stimulate the brain and make it harder to settle.
What’s more, not settling well at bedtime can itself become habit. Simply because a child has had a number of unhappy bedtimes in the past, it can come to feel natural not to settle.
We are loving our kids hypnosis sessions at hypnosisdownloads.com and we are already getting great feedback from happy parents. The new Kids happy bedtime uses soothing story telling to help children prepare for the sweetest of sleep. We think its going to be a godsend for parents as well as children.
All the best
Mark
If I could offer you or someone you care about a drug that could:
• Dull, even evaporate, pain but leave you free of drowsiness (1),
• Improve your immune function (2)
• Help you be calm and relaxed pre-surgery and heal quicker after surgery (3)
• Help reduce the side effects of chemotherapy (4)
• Lift phobias, quickly and comfortably cure post traumatic stress disorder (5) and help lift clinical depression (6)
• Sooth and improve even cure irritable bowel syndrome (7),
A med whose only side effect was increased well being, calm and confidence. A palliative costing millions perhaps hundreds of millions less than the vast majority of drugs currently used; what might you think of such an offer? Perhaps a piece of too good to be true quackery? Maybe a head in the clouds panacea? “Get real!” you might say or “get me some quick!”
This week British newspapers have been running a story about experts from The Hypnosis and Psychosomatic Medicine Section of the Royal Society of Medicine (RSM) believing and suggesting that the widespread use of hypnosis by well trained medical staff could both dramatically improve service and potentially save the tax payer millions of pounds annually.
That the mind and body are intricately linked and influence one another directly and continually is undisputed.
Hypnosis is a way of directly appealing to parts of the brain that directly or indirectly influence physical processes which are not usually controlled though the conscious use of the mind. I think every doctor, nurse and health professional that ever has contact with a potentially worried or pessimistic public should learn how to communicate hypnotically.
After all the medical establishment recognises the power of placebo to heal (all drugs coming to market are supposed to be tested against that most hypnotic of processes-placebo) so surely learning to use placebo verbally should be a staple training for anyone who needs to master perfect “bedside manner” for the benefit of patients everywhere.
Don’t hold your breath for change rather breathe nice and evenly, let your eyes close and envisage a healthier future for all. Then go do something proactive like write to your MP or start a volunteer hypnosis service for patients.
All the best
Mark
(1) See: Chaves, J. F. (1989). Hypnotic control of clinical pain. In N. P. Spanos & J. F. Chaves (Eds.), Hypnosis: the cognitive-behavioral perspective. Buffalo, NY: Prometheus.
(2) This from Robert Ornstein MD book ‘The healing Brain.’: ‘Kiecolt-Glaser and colleagues have found that relaxation training can also enhance cellular immune function. Forty-five geriatric residents of an independent-living facility were taught progressive relaxation and guided imagery techniques three times a week for one month. Relaxation was presented to these residents as a way to gain some control over their world. By the end of the training period the group showed a significant increase in natural killer cell activity compared to a control group and a group that merely had “social contact” visits from a college student. The relaxation group also showed significant decreases in antibodies to herpes simplex virus, possibly because the herpes virus was being controlled better by the immune system. These relaxation-induced improvements in immune function were accompanied by self-reports of less psychological distress.’
(3) For example according to a study cited in the Journal of the National Cancer Institute, Sept. 5, 2007 (J Natl Cancer Inst. 2007 Sep 5;99(17):1304-12. Epub 2007 Aug 28) Women about to have surgery for breast cancer who received a an hypnosis session before their operation needed less anesthesia and anti-pain meds both during and after surgery,reported less nausea, pain, fatigue, and and higher levels of comfort after surgery than women who did not receive hypnosis. The financial cost of surgery was also significantly lower for women in the pre-operation hypnosis group.
(4) See for example: Hypnosis in the prevention of chemotherapy-related nausea and vomiting in children: A prospective study. Jacknow, Dale S.; Tschann, Jeanne M.; Link, Michael P.; Boyce, W. Thomas Journal of Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics, Vol 15(4), Aug 1994, 258-264. doi:
(5) We at Uncommon Knowledge favour The Rewind Technique when seeking to lift phobias and PTSD http://www.rewindtechnique.com/
(6) See: Yapko, M. (1992). Hypnosis and the treatment of depressions. New York: Brunner/Mazel.Yapko, M. (1997). Breaking the patterns of depression. New York: Random House/Doubleday.Yapko, M. (2001). Treating depression with hypnosis: Integrating cognitive-behavioral and strategic approaches. Philadelphia, PA.:Brunner/Routledge.
(7) See: Visceral sensation and emotion: a study using hypnosis. 2002 Nov;51(5):701-4.Houghton LA, Calvert EL, Jackson NA, Cooper P, Whorwell PJ. SourceDepartment of Medicine, University Hospital of South Manchester, Manchester M20 2LR, UK. lahoughton@man.ac.
I used to write this section in our monthly Inspired Minds newsletter, but we figured it would be easier to read online, and all our blog subscribers would enjoy reading it too. At least I hope you do  Read May’s Inspired Minds newsletter here.
Downloads Unwrapped – May 2011
How to turn the inner tyrant around
It’s amazing how we can all so deeply internalize emotional conditioning that it comes to seemas if it arises spontaneously from within our own hearts. But it doesn’t. For example, one client told me that when he started to picture the negative voice in his head, he was astonished – and illuminated – to discover that it belonged to a particularly sadistic and critical school teacher from his childhood. This teacher would keep him back after lessons exclusively, it seemed, to inject another dose of low self esteem into his youthful mind. A criticism is different from a complaint. A complaint is time limited, specific and refers to behaviour and not identity.
“I am cross you didn’t bother washing up today!” is a complaint.
“You are so lazy and useless, you never do anything right!” is a criticism. It assaults the core identity of the one being criticised.
The new Tame your inner critic download doesn’t simply focus on changing negative self condemnation into positive self encouragement. It also aims to help people afflicted by self defeating ‘self talk’ to constructively use the parts of their self criticism that might actually be useful while discarding the useless self bashing that serves no one.
Why we need to learn from our past
The opposite of not eternally internally beating ourselves up isn’t unconditional self approval, regardless of what we are like and what we do – unless human beings really have reached the end of their potential for improvement, which I somehow doubt.
We have a past and we have the capacity to recall parts of that past, not in order to torment ourselves with it or indulge in regrets or sentimentality, but to learn from it. Making the same mistakes again and again can feel like being stuck in a kind of psychological limbo in which nothing really changes and there is no progress. The first step to learning from mistakes is to admit that you made them. But the more the culture around you encourages the passing on of blame, the harder this can be. Another new session out this month is Learn from mistakes. The idea is that it hypnotically encourages the acknowledgement of mistakes, the avoidance of both denial and self punishment, the ability to recognise when a new situation corresponds to an old situation where mistakes were made and the suggestion that a new more productive and healthy response can happen.
Each and every one of us can and should learn not just from our own mistakes but also from those of others – because “fools rush in where angels fear to tread.”
Put pride aside and dare to ask
It’s often said (in rather a sexist way, I might add) (that was mock indignation, by the way!) that men don’t like to ask for directions when hopelessly lost in a strange city, town or landscape. I ask you! Is that fair? Well, perhaps there is something in it. I am certainly pretty prone to not asking for help (if I can possibly help it) until I have made absolutely sure that I really am deal-breakingly late for that appointment. Status? Pride? Not wanting to appear vulnerable?
Seriously, being able to ask for help makes us human. And strong enough to be vulnerable (even if in quite small ways). I now make a point of asking for directions because I woke up to how unproductive false pride can be when faced with a new and confusing place. We all need to ask for help sometimes. If we never do it, then we also deny others the potential benefits of helping, and deny ourselves the chance of being helped, of course. Research has also found that when people help others (as long as they don’t feel forced to do so), they actually regard the person they helped more highly. Whether it’s practical help, emotional support or assistance with solving a complex problem, not wanting to ask through fear of being seen as ‘weak’ or ‘stupid’ or ‘needy’ can backfire. Ultimately, communities thrive on mutual support and help. The session Ask for help encourages the capacity to open up a little sometimes and ask for help where it’s needed.
Full hypnosis download Stop seeking approval
We all need to have some sense of feeling appreciated – or even just recognized – by others. It’s easy to understand why, if recognition or respect can’t be got through positive means, people will try short cuts to recognition like bad behaviour. Disapproval, while clearly running a poor second to approval, still feels better than the empty sense that no one even knows you are alive.
So we all need some recognition, but if every decision we make, every action and word we speak, is calibrated to what you imagine other people expect of you, then your life kind of stops being your own.
People don’t always understand your reasons for doing things and “you have to break eggs to make an omelette”. But it can feel really hard to overcome the conditioning of not wanting to “upset the apple cart”. Maybe we have been brought up feeling disapproved of, or are so keen for acknowledgement by our peers and positive approval because public recognition and approval was portrayed as being all important.
But to truly break the mould and become your own person it’s vital to keep automatic approval-seeking to a minimum. People-pleasing at the expense of what you want for yourself is a sure path to an unfulfilled life. This month we’ve updated and improved Stop seeking approval because we can be decent to others and behave well without being shackled to the need for approval.
All the best
Mark
Full hypnosis download Ask for help
It’s so easy to try to pretend everything is all right, to want, at all times, to present a competent and even infallible front to the world. Even while inwardly struggling to cope.
Why do we do this?
Perhaps we don’t want to ‘trouble’ other people. Or perhaps we feel that any request for help may set us at some kind of disadvantage – as if we might lose status by admitting we’re not perfect.
But human connections, friendships and even romantic couplings are built on reciprocation and mutual help. Giving people the opportunity to feel helpful can add meaning to their lives and make them feel more connected to you. If we don’t ever ask for help, we risk cutting ourselves off from others.
And, of course, we deny ourselves help that we might have received.
Just released on hypnosisdownloads.com, you can get help by downloading Ask for help, which, as well as providing a deep and peaceful relaxation, will instil a sense that you can sometimes put pride or reticence aside so that honest communication can happen between you and others. Because we all need help sometimes.
All the best
Mark
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