Communication Skills for Confidence

Fear of bees and wasps

luvhari — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 16:20:09 +0000

Full hypnosis download Fear of bees and wasps – in production

There are always uninvited guests at picnics and barbecues. I’m talking about the bees and wasps who’ll be drawn to your sandwiches and your sweet drinks. Uninvited and unpopular, they’re always there.

But come to think of it, who exactly is gate crashing here?

The world of plants, trees and flowers is the natural home of bees and wasps. They didn’t ask you to come along with your picnic basket or set up your barbecue right where they are foraging for nectar. You just showed up! You couldn’t blame them if they felt a bit aggrieved.

Fortunately, if you don’t bother them or frighten them, they don’t get aggrieved and although they might fancy a bit of your jam, they are very unlikely to have a go at you.

So it’s a shame that so many people find it hard to enjoy themselves outdoors because they’re afraid of these small and harmless creatures (yes, I know they can sting, but generally they won’t). Fear of bees and wasps is a new session from hypnosisdownloads.com that will help people calm down their old worries and relax comfortably with all the guests at the picnic.

All the best

Mark

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Downloads Unwrapped August 2010

luvhari — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 16:20:09 +0000

I used to write this section in our monthly Inspired Minds newsletter, but we figured it would be easier to read online, and all our blog subscribers would enjoy reading it too. At least I hope you do Read August’s Inspired Minds newsletter here.

Downloads Unwrapped – August 2010

What is a f’etish?

In my years as a hypnotherapist I’ve treated countless people for phobias and post traumatic stress disorder. Two of the easiest things to treat using hypnosis. But I can only recall a handful of cases of s’exual f’etishism (excuse the strange punctuation, we have to do it to avoid tripping up word filters in email programs!). It may well be that many f’etishists enjoy and want to keep their particular s’exual kinkiness. But some people would really rather be rid of s’exual compulsions that they feel do not fit with who they are.

People are surprised when I say that a s’exual f’etish works in just the same way as a phobia. The phobic is responding to a trigger by producing the ‘wrong’ or an excessive response. We call this ‘faulty pattern matching’. They might respond with extreme terror to something that is intrinsically non-threatening, such as a plastic button. The match between their response and the trigger is ‘faulty’. The s’exual f’etishist does the same. A trigger which has nothing to do with s’exual activity produces a s’exual response. So some people may have phobias of inflatable balloons while others might be turned on by them. The session Overcome a s’exual f’etish deals with changing these ‘crossed wires’. F’etishes may have originated like phobias in that both may have been ‘accidental pairings’ of a s’exual or fear response to a trigger. For example, if someone happened to be feeling s’exually aroused at a time when they were watching TV, and saw on screen a woman who was smoking, s’exual arousal may be accidentally linked to ‘women smoking’ (this is what actually happened to a client of mine).

Fear of travel – fear of the unknown known or the unknown unknown?

The very first client I ever treated (while I was still training in 1993) had a Fear of travel. He would get weepy and anxious whenever he packed his suitcase. I asked him to think about this feeling and to notice if a memory came to mind. He said that suddenly he was thinking about a time when he’d been very young and setting off to boarding school. He hadn’t wanted to go. For fifty years he’d been plagued by anxiety about travelling, but never made the connection between leaving home as an adult and this childhood memory. Of course, people fear travelling for many different reasons because there’s a lot of ‘what-if-ing’ you can do: What if I forget my passport? What if I get mugged? What if the car breaks down? Part of the art of enjoyable travel is making good plans and maintaining a good attitude. The good attitude part encompasses relaxing with the unknown, having faith that ‘whatever happens I’ll handle it!’ and enjoying good old fashioned adventure. Adopting a control freak approach to travel rather than accepting that there are some things that you simply can’t plan for takes all the joy out of venturing forth. The session Fear of travel deals with all these aspects and more.

Facing up to it and finding it’s not as bad as you think

So-called ‘denial’ about what’s really going on can prevent us from doing what needs to be done, but also creates a nagging psychological discomfort -a ‘cognitive dissonance’ – which can be quite painful to maintain. Knowing a relationship isn’t working but pretending everything is fine; knowing you’re getting deeper in debt but not opening those brown envelopes; sensing that your drinking is getting of control but happily going along with the pretence that it’s all okay and your liver is thriving… But ah, the relief when reality is faced! People are often surprised at the intensity of the relief they feel when they finally face up honestly to what there is to be faced. The session It’s not as bad as you think encourages the removal of head from sand so that necessary changes can be made. Knowing the beast is the first step to vanquishing it.

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Get popular

luvhari — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 16:20:08 +0000

Full hypnosis download Get popular

Some people seem to attract other people like bees to nectar. Others find it hard to make friends or even to interest other people. The new improved (and very popular) Get popular hypnosisdownloads.com session looks at the difference, and at how ‘popularity’ is a by-product of certain behaviours, habits and communication techniques rather than an end in itself.

You can’t force people to find you compelling and interesting or to want to be with you, but you can make all these things much more likely through attitude and learnable skills and techniques. There’s reams of research showing that the more social connections we have, the more healthy we are both physically and emotionally. The Get popular session is for anyone who feels they’d like more popularity.

All the best

Mark

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Lower back pain relief

luvhari — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 16:20:08 +0000

Full hypnosis download Lower back pain relief

Lower back pain is incredibly common (8 out of 10 people report at least one bout of lower back pain) and can be incredibly uncomfortable and even debilitating. Causes could be bad posture, injury, or even excess psychological tension. The new Lower back pain relief download for hypnosisdownloads.com takes a quick look at lifestyle, but really focuses on using hypnotic approaches to replace pain with comfort as fast as possible.

All the best

Mark

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Fear of travel

luvhari — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 16:20:07 +0000

Full hypnosis download Overcome fear of travel

We are all of us, in a sense, travelling all the time. If life is a journey, and journeys sometimes involve the unexpected and the un-planned for, then yes, we are all travelling.

But more literally, the latest hypnosisdownloads.com session Fear of travel is an audio hypnosis product that helps people who specifically get anxious about travel – both at the prospect of leaving their home and the idea of having to face potential unexpectedness ‘on the road’. Perhaps the person is too ‘organised’ – to the extent that they feel everything must always be totally foreseeable and controllable – which of course life isn’t anyway. If someone likes to control everything then travel might just seem a step too far, containing too many ‘what ifs’ for comfort. What we need here is a compromise. Sure, all that can be planned for needs to be addressed, but then the person needs to adopt an open, curious and expansive attitude of “I’ll just relax and see what this journey has in store.”

Other nervous travellers may have learned to fear travel through past experience or even learnt from another person that venturing forth is more threatening than it really is. When you relax with travel than whole vistas of experience open before you.

All the best

Mark

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Grow a Pair- From Frank Kern

luvhari — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 13:09:30 +0000

Here is a piece that you absolutely must read. Its very inspiring and we all could use a little of that in our lives.

The Two Magic Powers | Frank Kern Internet Marketing:

Occasionally, the unthinkable occurs.

I run out of the trash-fiction that I like to read – and as a last resort, I pick up “emergency reading material” like Oprah Magazine. (My wife gets it. Not me! I swear! I only read manly stuff like “Liquor Soaked Brawler’s Digest”.)

And usually, like I do with all magazines, I just like to read the ads. I was about 78 pages into it when, for some reason, I started reading an actual article about successful women.
And that’s when an amazing lady jumped out of the page at me. Her name is Madam C.J. Walker and here she is: And let me tell you, this lady could have

… Kicked All Of Our Asses …Combined!

Here’s why: First, the article in Oprah didn’t say much about her except that she became extremely successful selling hair products door-to-door.
All I can really remember is it had her picture and then it mentioned her success. Now, being a former door-to-door man myself, I decided to check her out.

Here’s what I found: First, she was born in Louisiana. On a farm. In 1865. Not really an ideal time and place to be born if you’re: 1. A woman.
2. African American.

But she had plenty of additional challenges to face. She was an orphan at age seven. At age 14, she got married …reportedly to escape the abuse that she was suffering at the hands of her brother-in-law.

She became a mother at age 17, and a widow at age 20. She supported herself and her daughter by picking cotton on a farm, by being a laundress, and by working in a barber shop.
From what I can tell, the most she ever made during that time was $1.50 a day. But It Got Worse At around 25 years old, she began to develop a a condition that caused her to start balding. Can you imagine? As if she didn’t have enough to deal with

…now the poor lady’s hair is falling out. (And we whine when our cell phone drops a call every now and then… kind of embarrassing.)
Anyway … Here’s Where It Gets Good It shouldn’t surprise you that she quickly became a student of “how to fix this damned balding problem”. In fact, she researched all kinds of treatments, and eventually discovered that sulfur could abolish the scalp disease that was causing people to lose their hair.

(Apparently, people lost their hair a lot back then because they didn’t bathe as much. They would get some nasty scalp infection and their hair would fall out. But if you treated the problem with sulfur, you could knock it out.)

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Helping you keep a cool head

luvhari — Wed, 19 May 2010 10:52:24 +0000

Sometimes stress gets the better of us and we loose our cool. Here are some of the practical ways to maintain a cooler head. To get the best results use some of the suggestions given. Most people tend to read a lot and do very little and feel frustrated that nothing is working. well, you have to use it for it to work…. so go and try some of these and tell me how it works!

How to Keep a Cool Head:

5 tips to keep you calm, unruffled, and effective even when life gets tough How to Keep a Cool Head “How to Keep a Cool Head” courtesy of geoftheref “They called me ‘Mr Cool’. I was the guy that diffused live bombs. I was totally calm, detached, and professional before, during, and after an operation. But all I can say is I’ve lost my cool.” I was intrigued. It didn’t look as if a bomb had actually gone off anywhere near him. “So what happened, Ron? What changed? How did you lose that cool?” “I know exactly what happened!” Ron looked angry. “I went to couple therapy with my wife, as we were having difficulties. The therapist decided I needed to get in touch with my feelings. We both told her that wasn’t really the issue. Anyway, I got so in touch with my feelings that I couldn’t continue to do the job I loved. I need to work again and I need my cool head back; at least when I’m working.”

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Confidence Beaters.

luvhari — Mon, 10 May 2010 08:57:57 +0000

Lots of people suffer with low self confidence, not because they are born that way but because they always watch TV which builds up this really bad image of themselves in hopes of making them buy more of the silly stuff they are selling. So how do you get out of such a viscous cycle?
Stop watching TV for a while and read some god books instead.
Here is a good article you can start with.

How to Build Confidence For Personal Development:

The ultimate factor to change your quality of life is to build confidence. Personal development improves confidence. How to improve your confidence with personal development? As you develop your skills your confidence to manage all of life’s challenges improves. To read and study personal development does not make it happen. You need to exercise the discipline to act to make it a reality. It only take ounces of discipline to avoid tons of regret. Are you being as faithful and fruitful as God intended for you? Have you realized the gift of what you can be? For many people they have not really defined what they can and or want to be. Have you realized the gift of what you can be?

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luvhari — Sat, 01 May 2010 12:26:11 +0000

While running though my own Articles on Presentation skills, I came across something I wrote some time ago and had almost forgotten. This article is simple and easy ti implement. One of the dangers of learning too much is that we tend to make things a little too complicated. So here is the simpler way. I am not telling you its easy but it is simpler for sure. Try it, you may like it !

Impact Factory – Presentation Skills Tips:

Presentation Tips – 7 Dwarfs to Make You More Effective in Your Presentation 7 simple tips to help p your audience enjoy your Presentation.
Do not assume all is well unless you are getting the best results each and every time. These 7 dwarfs can help you boost your existing skills or help you develop new skills.
Presentation Skills Thousands web pages dedicated to giving all kinds of tips and why should you choose to read this one? After all, I am beyond claiming that these are the missing links to make you the best presenter in the planet or anything close to it. No Pun Intended.
There are no magic bullets that I, or anyone else can give you, to make an unbelievable change in the way you present. However, I can help you with a tip or two to make the presentation a little more presentable and enjoyable.

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Nordstrom and Customer service

luvhari — Sat, 17 Apr 2010 20:43:03 +0000

Nordstorms has many legends associated with its service. But is it true anymore? You decide. Now the article below is more liek a gateway to expand your thinking, not a judgment. so Keep an open eye.

Customer Service Legends – Is Nordstrom Still Nordstrom?:

I was having a delightful conversation with a client the other day when she mentioned that she and her semi-rural neighbors “Think nothing of driving an hour or an hour and a half to get to a Nordstrom store.” The reason: “We know we’ll be treated right when we arrive, unlike what happens when we visit local retailers.” I smiled broadly but invisibly because we were chatting over the phone. She was unwittingly adding to the “Nordstrom Legend.” Lots of folks do that. Yes, compared to her local retailers, those hard working but rather unpolished Mom & Pops, Nordstrom is still a refreshing oasis in the Sahara. But in my view, it is not as sharp as it was in providing expert service, and it was probably never as Olympian as its legend represented.

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