So I was standing in this line trying o buy tickets to the new Dark Knight rises movie (awesome movie btw) and since it was a weekday the crowd mainly consisted of teenagers. Right behind us were a group of 4-5 teenagers who were unusually silent baring for an occasional grunt noises and some other weird noises that I could not understand. curios, I turned our to spy a bit on our neighbors and was not surprised that they were all on their smart phones typing/swyping away to glory.
So thats why there is no noise!!
As I kept noticing, I could see the nonverbals signs were almost as if they were talking amongst themselves. Too curious, I tapped one of the cute girls and asked her if they were talking amongst themselves via texting.
She was startled and admitted that they were chatting on one of the social sites.So asked her why they were chatting on phones where they all were right next to each other and she said they are more comfortable with friends in chat mode than in person cuz she could never speak to her friends that way in person.
Being from the loud generation, I honestly could not understand how someone cannot talk to their friends in person and prefer to an inanimate form of communication?
The best days of my life were spent hanging out similar loud obnoxious guys and gals making people around us uncomfortable getting thrown out of restaurants due to loudness and crude jokes. And we do it till date. I think the Android generation is missing out on all the fun you can have without the crazy gadgets. They are the perfect consumers for future.
The kids these days depend to much on gadgets for entertainment is this a good trend? If your kid is getting into this kind of gadget speaking habit, tech him how you can have fun just by building castles in the sand, how you can play twisters and how you can enjoy life without the gadgets and toys.
Encourage them to talk to people around them rather than live their life in the virtual world.
I came across this real life example of how blindly following a pattern that we are used to, can be self destructive in some cases. Take a moment to read and think for yourselves how many such patterns in your life you can get rid of…
When we were young and learning bicycle for the first time, we used support. when we mastered it we no longer needed support, be it training wheels or someone holding from behind. While we become good in recognizing physical support, we often fail to recognize the mental training wheels we develop and tend to stay stuck to them well into our adult life… time to get them out of your way and here is an example of a pattern that has outgrown its use.
Jean Henri Fabre was a scientist who lived during the 1800s. He is perhaps most famous for the experiment he did with processionary caterpillars in 1855.
These caterpillars follow each other very closely, forming a column that moves in a procession so they don’t stray from the path. When they go out in search of food, each caterpillar excretes a silky substance which deepens the trail that the procession follows on their return.
One day Fabre placed some of these caterpillars around the rim of a flower pot. In the center of the pot, he put the caterpillar’s favorite food, pine needles. The caterpillars just marched around and around the flower pot on their comfortable road of silk, doing what they had always done, following the comrade in front of them.
Exhausted, hungry, worn out, they blindly followed each other around the rim, while only a few inches away lay exactly what they needed to live a healthy and prosperous life. For days and days, the caterpillars marched around the pot, never leaving their silken path, until one by one they fell off the rim and died. . . Never breaking their pattern.
With all our intellect, abilities and gifts, most human beings are not all that different. We all have unconscious patterns that keep us stuck in one aspect of our life or another. Around and around we go, following our past programming, holding on to outdated beliefs and maintaining destructive habits and behaviors that are no longer congruent with who we want to be as human beings.
Why do we do this?
Following a familiar pattern can be very comforting because it feels safe. Sometimes it can be deadly as in the case of the caterpillar. Mostly, it provides a false sense of security and robs us of our vitality, creativity and our potential for creating the best in our life.
The wonderful thing about being human is that we can change!
Change the patterns and get focused on what you really want in life. Write it down and spend time each day thinking about it. Ask yourself during the day is what you are doing really leading to you to what you want?
By: Zoilita Grant Colorado Coaching and Hypnotherapy [info(at)zoilitagrant.net]
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I run out of the trash-fiction that I like to read – and as a last resort, I pick up “emergency reading material” like Oprah Magazine. (My wife gets it. Not me! I swear! I only read manly stuff like “Liquor Soaked Brawler’s Digest”.)
And usually, like I do with all magazines, I just like to read the ads. I was about 78 pages into it when, for some reason, I started reading an actual article about successful women.
And that’s when an amazing lady jumped out of the page at me. Her name is Madam C.J. Walker and here she is: And let me tell you, this lady could have
… Kicked All Of Our Asses …Combined!
Here’s why: First, the article in Oprah didn’t say much about her except that she became extremely successful selling hair products door-to-door.
All I can really remember is it had her picture and then it mentioned her success. Now, being a former door-to-door man myself, I decided to check her out.
Here’s what I found: First, she was born in Louisiana. On a farm. In 1865. Not really an ideal time and place to be born if you’re: 1. A woman.
2. African American.
But she had plenty of additional challenges to face. She was an orphan at age seven. At age 14, she got married …reportedly to escape the abuse that she was suffering at the hands of her brother-in-law.
She became a mother at age 17, and a widow at age 20. She supported herself and her daughter by picking cotton on a farm, by being a laundress, and by working in a barber shop.
From what I can tell, the most she ever made during that time was $1.50 a day. But It Got Worse At around 25 years old, she began to develop a a condition that caused her to start balding. Can you imagine? As if she didn’t have enough to deal with
…now the poor lady’s hair is falling out. (And we whine when our cell phone drops a call every now and then… kind of embarrassing.)
Anyway … Here’s Where It Gets Good It shouldn’t surprise you that she quickly became a student of “how to fix this damned balding problem”. In fact, she researched all kinds of treatments, and eventually discovered that sulfur could abolish the scalp disease that was causing people to lose their hair.
(Apparently, people lost their hair a lot back then because they didn’t bathe as much. They would get some nasty scalp infection and their hair would fall out. But if you treated the problem with sulfur, you could knock it out.)
Lots of people suffer with low self confidence, not because they are born that way but because they always watch TV which builds up this really bad image of themselves in hopes of making them buy more of the silly stuff they are selling. So how do you get out of such a viscous cycle?
Stop watching TV for a while and read some god books instead.
Here is a good article you can start with.
The ultimate factor to change your quality of life is to build confidence. Personal development improves confidence. How to improve your confidence with personal development? As you develop your skills your confidence to manage all of life’s challenges improves. To read and study personal development does not make it happen. You need to exercise the discipline to act to make it a reality. It only take ounces of discipline to avoid tons of regret. Are you being as faithful and fruitful as God intended for you? Have you realized the gift of what you can be? For many people they have not really defined what they can and or want to be. Have you realized the gift of what you can be?
I was having a delightful conversation with a client the other day when she mentioned that she and her semi-rural neighbors “Think nothing of driving an hour or an hour and a half to get to a Nordstrom store.” The reason: “We know we’ll be treated right when we arrive, unlike what happens when we visit local retailers.” I smiled broadly but invisibly because we were chatting over the phone. She was unwittingly adding to the “Nordstrom Legend.” Lots of folks do that. Yes, compared to her local retailers, those hard working but rather unpolished Mom & Pops, Nordstrom is still a refreshing oasis in the Sahara. But in my view, it is not as sharp as it was in providing expert service, and it was probably never as Olympian as its legend represented.
Many people forget the things that matter in life and constantly wonder why they feel like shit most of the time. Although most people say they want to be happy, almost none of them can tell you how specifically they will know when they are happy.
It looks like our brain is not tuned into feel happy. Don’t believe me?
Ok answer this question
Where in you body do you feel the most pleasure right now?
Found an answer yet?
If you are like most people you say there wondering where you feel the most pleasure in your body.
Now try answering another question
Where in your body do you feel the most pain right now?
At one workshop I had a near 100% response to this question. Almost everyone could point out at least one place where they felt some kind of pain.
What does this exercise prove?
We are more tuned into detect pain than pleasure. Any wonder why we always seem to end up in bad spots, less than desirable situations.
The things we like don’t seem to want to come to us. That is because although consciously we say we like pleasure, unconsciously we are comfortable with pain.
Until you realize this fact and consciously start to identify the pleasure spots in your body and in your life, you will stay wound in the same rat race.
So everytime you make a decision ask your self are making it because every one else is making or, because you believe you will get closer to being happier this way?
One of the best things a parent can do for their child is help to nurture and build their self-esteem. Feelings of value and self-worth are critical to a child, as these feelings will almost always follow a child into adulthood. Children with good self-esteem won’t be afraid to try new things, because they have a deep belief that they are capable and that their thoughts and actions are worthwhile. If you ask a successful person about their childhood, many times they will say that their parents always believed in them and thought they could do anything. How to Help Build a Child’s Self-Esteem
Came across this article on self esteem which essentially proves my long help belief. People with low self esteem are easily swayed by others opinion. So If you need one more reason as to why it is important to have a strong self esteem, here it is. The Question to ask your self is” Do you want to live your life on your terms or as per others wishes?
Here is a small extract from the article and to find out more, check out the link below the extract
Self-Esteem is not an everyday stability you have inside you and when you don’t have it in you, you suffer the vulnerability to being naïve and easily swayed by the words of people. The power of peer pressure is more than what people take it for; it can easily force you to commit mistakes, follow vices and even lose the true essence of yourself in the event of trying to please your friends. What drives us to do these odd things not normally part of our normal ideas? It’s simple: Negative words. You fear the rejection of society and would rather have it smile and praise than to keep your dignity intact and receive painful remarks, the force alone trapped in such hurtful things is that it damages who you are and that is why negative words affect you more than you realize. Why Negative Words Affect You More Than You Realize
Your ability to communicate is usually considered as having a direct relation to your intelligence. If you mumble and fumble along, even if you are confident or cute people will see through. Having said that sometimes even a mumbling idiot can become a very powerful person, not withstanding his stupidities. Look around and you will find a few examples.
Here is one video of a very hot looking woman who makes a complete idiot out of herself on a nationally televised interview. Listen carefully and you will notice she cannot evencomplete sentences correctly an often have too many thoughts to share within the overlapping ideas. To be perfectly honest I am very happy she is not the Vice president of any country.
Keeping your political views aside, have an objective look at what she has to say. Does it make any sense at all?
Had she been elected she would have been a worthy successor to George Bush.